Monday, 15 August 2011

Journey of a woman through love, admirers, breakups and evolution as a mature woman!

Life is such a cosmic term that even a complete lifetime is small enough to untie its mystery and beauty. Taking inspiration from my own life, here today I am making an attempt to pen down a girl’s journey through her different phases of innocent love, admirers, breakups and evolution as a mature woman.

A Girl starts coming across the admirers even before she could understand what this all means. We live in a society where a 5 year old can be raped too. Passing through the adolescent age when she reaches age of 16 she finds her own fairy tale world where every guy just loves one girl and every girl has that one guy in her life that means world to her. People marry only to their first loves and live happily ever after like all the fascinating stories. She trusts blindly, smiles and blushes every time you call her beautiful. When you say “I love you” to her that simply means you will only marry her. That’s the age when we fall in our so called “first love”.

At that age it’s all about staying up late talking to each other, discussing about the future with uncertainty of how long it will last. It’s a risk you both are willing to take even if it means you’ll end up with a broken heart. But then with the passage of time this illusionary world starts fading away. We realize we are growing up, we realize things change; we realize life is not only about our dream world. There is much more to it and we learn how to move on…. When first time our heart broke, doesn’t it felt that life is coming to an end? When each love song you listen reminded you of that person in one or the other way… We all have gone through this stage. When you break up a small part of that person remains in your heart. The magic of breaking up with your first love is the time when you learn to cry, let go, be strong, and be wise. It’s one of the hardest things you do trying to teach yourself not to be attached to someone anymore and to get over them so that the next time you love again it may be better than the first time; you never know!

Years later we think about this innocent love, we think about the crazy things we did, about how our first love meant the world to us and we remember it all as sweet memories of our lives :)

At some point comes the time when each girl lives with guilt… A guilt to keep things to herself, guilt to have fallen in love with wrong guy but for all the right reasons, a guilt of breaking some one else’s heart. When you know some one loves you madly but you can’t reciprocate the same feelings. And all she can do to heal that person is saying “I really like you but only as a friend “. Now that’s something all we girls have said at some point of time – Haven’t we? ;-)

That little girl grows up so fast before she could even realize it. And then comes the time when the right guy arrives. Every dream starts making sense once again. But, she experiences this confusion if he is the one with whom she wants to spend the rest of her life with… A stage when even the most handsome man cant take her heart away because the man she gave her heart to is the most eligible guy for her in the world. No proposals can melt her heart and no words can touch her heart. She wants what her heart desires the most.

One never knows what lies ahead in life. We all live with this gut feeling that something good is bound to happen. I do believe in destiny. I do believe in miracles. I do believe that everyone gets his/her perfect soul mate sooner than later, it is just a matter of time. It’s true that destiny plays a role in our life but we have to build those bridges to reach to the right one for us.

As they say "Always Keep your eyes and ears open. Lightening can strike anytime" 


  1. Honest, unpretentious and very beautiful.. and oozing with optimism.. readin it feels like having a soulful chat with a close friend walking on a moonlit highway..(chalo zyada ho gaya! :P) but I the likes it! :-)

  2. good start good blog.....let the rhythm continue